My Character Coach

I find myself in many conversations with different people on topics of relationships, finances and spirituality. As I reflected on the different topics I’ve found they had something in common and that is the persons internal comfort level, thought process and emotional state about the topic, in short their thermostat.

We’ve all heard by now that 9 out of 10 lottery winners are broke in less than 2 years no matter how much they’d won. Their financial thermostat is set to “poverty” or “struggle” but no matter what the setting is they will subconsciously divest themselves of their wealth. Like a thermostat they will get themselves back to where the needle is set. Its not the money it’s the person.

The same rules apply in relationships. If you are used to people treating you badly most of your life, when you meet someone who treats you well, you will sabotage the relationship if your thermostat is set to abuse or adopt a victim mentality. You expect mistreatment and then act accordingly. 

We have to adjust our thermostat by changing our internal dialogue. Will you continue thinking; “Money is hard to come by.” or ” All men are jerks” or any other negative psycho babble that we play in our heads that sets the gauge on our internal thermostat? 

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Success or failure is character. Not any one event or situation will make you a success or failure but your repeated actions. In other words your habits. You see, a successful or soon to be successful person, first picks up success habits. They may make a habit of reducing their debt, living below their means, and investing in assets such as real estate, stocks or starting a business. It will begin as something they do but over time, those winning habits become who they are. Donald Trump no longer has to convince himself to build or buy assets, it is no longer what he does, it is who he is!

The same is true for any person of long term success in any aspect of life. First develop good beneficial habits then it will develop into “who you are” not just “what you do.” After that success becomes automatic! As the saying goes; Sow a habit,reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny!

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